I am amazed at how much people have to offer when I ask them about themselves. I have no idea how deep a person is until I really listen and learn about their experiences and their worldview. Things that might go unnoticed or be cast aside as unimportant can take on a whole new significance in the context of someone elses life story.
The challenge (as I see it today) is to share without being a bore. Bores talk about themselves without ever taking a moment to express any sort of interest in the person they are talking to. Boring people may have lived extraordinary lives but no one will ever know that. This is because they refuse to pause long enough to get anyone engaged through relating to other peoples life experiences.
I have struggled with finding a balance between talking about myself and gently exploring other people’s stories. There have been times when I just kept my mouth shut and felt like I was so insignificant that my tales did not deserve to be told. Other times I have been like a lunatic spouting off about the most mundane and inconsequential details of my foolishness that, in hindsight, I would have left the room to avoid hearing the conclusion of my own rants.
One reason people are not widely known is not because they do not post enough to Facebook (or whatever social media platform(s) they inhabit). The reason for their anonymity is that they seldom develop a dialog with others concerning the lives of the people they are talking to (or at). After they “like” a comment they move on to describing their next “amazing” experience or brilliant insight.
Conversations are built on the practice of give and take. When someone takes without giving, conversations end. I am describing a bigger picture, not just an individual post here or there. The real reason why some people remain isolated is because they do not seek to really know anyone else, deeply, on a one-to-one basis over time. This requires a commitment to relationship and persistence in practice.
If you want to be better known, go out and get to know someone else.